SOFT POWER TEXTING
Receipts included: When “I’m spiraling” meets “Come here” — and what healthy support really looks like.
A little “off-page” flirting from Spirit & Dom (not in the book)
Receipts first:
SPIRIT: Hey love. How’s your day going? ☀️💛
DOM: Hey Spree. In that mode again 😮💨
Everything feels like a fight 🥊
Talk to me 🖤
SPIRIT: Put the power down, Mr. CEO 🫴🏽👑
Stop trying to win the day 😌🏁
Come here 😏👉🏽
That intensity is sexy 🔥… but your peace is sexier 🕊️😍
Save that strength for kissing me 💋😮💨
You don’t have to DOM the universe 🌎🙅🏽♀️
Just… me 😈💞
Call me if you need 📲
I’ll talk you down… and then I’ll talk you dirty 😇➡️😈💦
DOM: ❤️🖤🥰😮💨💋📲
Okay… yes. That just happened.
Dom basically texted: “I’m spiraling.” And Spirit didn’t hit him with a “name your feelings” voice, or a ten-step healing thread, or calm lecture with bullet points. She hit him with a nickname, a crown, and a “come here.”
It’s funny. It’s romantic. It’s also… worth discussing.
Is that healthy?
Sometimes flirting is emotional first aid. It interrupts the spiral. It lowers the temperature. It reminds someone they’re safe and wanted—fast.
Spirit’s message works because it:
breaks the tension
pulls him out of fight mode
brings him back into connection
That’s not “wrong.” That’s intimacy doing what intimacy does.
Where it gets tricky
It gets unhealthy when sexy becomes the only coping skill in the house.
If the pattern turns into:
he’s stressed → she flirts → he calms down → nobody names the real issue → stress comes back tomorrow
…then romance starts acting like a bandage on something that keeps reopening.
And you end up living in two modes:
power struggle
bedroom bargaining
…with not enough actual emotional language in the middle.
The healthiest version of Spirit’s move
This move becomes healthy when flirting is Step One, not the whole plan.
Step One is the soft landing. The “come here.”
Then you circle back with a real check-in, like:
“Real talk— is this today’s problem, or some old wound getting loud?”
“Be honest… do you need comfort, a game plan, or a kiss rn?”
“Okay—what’s actually got you feeling out of control?”
“Alright, honey—what’s really bothering you today?”
Because the goal isn’t just to make him feel desired.
The goal is to help him feel grounded.
Bottom line
Flirting can be a doorway.
But it can’t be the whole house.
So yes—kiss him.
And also—help him name what he’s fighting.
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